I just can't.
I just can't.
"Ugh, I CAN'T have that hummus because it will just destroy my stomach."
"I just CAN'T eat that yogurt anymore and I'm so sick of all the things that I CAN'T have."
Have you said this when talking about food?
When I asked her why she was focusing on the things she CAN'T have because of her IBS she said, "Well, because it's right in front of me. What else am I supposed to do?"
I have one question for you...
Have you felt, that your relationship with food has changed due to your digestive distress? I know when I was going through it, mine did.
Then, this one small change made all the difference in my client's relationship with food. (And mine)
If you've seen my posts from last week, you know that mindset is an important part of my practice.
So, I asked her this...
Why don't we try changing the CAN'T to I CHOOSE NOT TO?
I CHOOSE not to have that yogurt because it will cause my digestive symptoms to flare up. I am in a great place right now and I don't want to rock the boat.
I CHOOSE to have cauliflower hummus instead of chickpea hummus because I know that cauliflower works with my body and I don't want to set myself back.
See the difference there with one little change?
Ahem, growth mindset, positivity.
This conversation made her light up with that moment of realization that there are still so many foods that she now knows she CAN have that are calming her symptoms and working with her body to allow her to go to that yoga class.
She is now choosing to eat certain foods that work with her diagnosis so that she can get through a meeting without needing to leave 4 times to head to the bathroom.
She is choosing to avoid certain foods and focus on others so that she can say yes to that girls day on a weekend and not be stuck at home in pain and frustration.
This one change made all the difference in her relationship with food.
Our mindset lends itself to our relationship with food. We can see food as the fuel our body needs or our nemesis. It makes all the difference when you know what works for you and what doesn't.
Are you ready to give this one little change a try? Do you choose to improve your mindset and your relationship with food?
There's an old saying about how the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago but the next best time is today.
I choose to be here for you. You can break the 'I can't mindset' with a digestive diagnosis. If you've been feeling this way with your IBS, Crohn's or Colitis, let me help you figure this out.